Getting an invitation from a guy to come over to his place can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. You may feel unsure about how to respond. Do you go over? Do you politely decline? What does it mean when a guy invites you over?
This comprehensive guide will provide 37 potential replies and tips on how to handle the situation smoothly.
37 Replies To Respond To A Guy Who Invites You Over
1. I’ll have to think about it and get back to you.
2. Give me some time to decide if I’m comfortable coming over.
3. Since we don’t know each other very well yet, I’d prefer to meet in public first.
4. What did you have in mind for us to do if I came over?
5. I don’t feel we know each other well enough for me to come to your place.
6. Do you have a girlfriend or are you married? I don’t want to get in the middle of anything.
7. I’m sorry, but I’m married/have a boyfriend and don’t feel it’s appropriate to come over.
8. I’d be more comfortable video chatting or talking on the phone instead of coming over.
9. Is there something urgent we need to discuss in person right away?
10. I have a rule not to go over to someone’s home until I know them better.
11. That sounds fun, what did you want to do together?
12. I appreciate the invite but I’ll have to take a raincheck this time.
13. I like you but I’m not ready to take things to a physical level yet.
14. Could we go out in public instead of staying in at your place?
15. I’m not comfortable being alone at your place when we don’t know each other well yet.
16. Let’s get lunch/dinner together this weekend and see how things go from there.
17. I’d love to hang out but your place makes me a little nervous since we just met. Any other ideas?
18. I’m sorry, I have other plans that day but let’s set up another time to get together!
19. I want to be upfront that I’m not looking for anything physical right now.
20. Going over feels like a big step when we haven’t gone out on a real date yet.
21. Can we start with something like meeting for coffee instead?
22. I like you but don’t want to give you the wrong idea if I come over.
23. Let’s chat more and get to know each other before going to your place.
24. I don’t go over to a guy’s home until I’m in a committed relationship.
25. Is there a reason we can’t hang out somewhere public instead?
26. I’d rather not be alone with you at your place when we’re still just getting to know each other.
27. Why don’t you come over to my place instead so I feel more comfortable?
28. I want to take things slowly and build more trust before going to your home.
29. Can we meet up during the day or when your roommates are home?
30. I’d like to talk more about expectations and boundaries before deciding.
31. Let’s meet at a cafe or restaurant first to see if we click in person.
32. Sorry, but I have to pass this time. Maybe we could do something else together.
33. I don’t go to a guy’s place unless we’re dating exclusively.
34. I appreciate you asking, but I’ll have to say no for now.
35. I’d prefer if we hung out in public for our first few dates.
36. How about we meet up for dinner/drinks instead of going to your place?
37. Thanks for the invite but I’ll have to politely decline.
How To Respond To A Guy Who Invites You Over?
1. I’ll have to think about it and get back to you.
Take some time to consider the invitation before giving a definite yes or no. You want to make sure you are comfortable with the idea and don’t feel pressured into accepting right away.
2. Give me some time to decide if I’m comfortable coming over.
Make it clear you need time to think it over and assess your comfort level. Rushing into this meeting invite could lead to regret.
3. Since we don’t know each other very well yet, I’d prefer to meet in public first.
When you don’t know someone well, meeting privately at their home can feel risky. Suggest getting together in a public place first to get more comfortable.
4. What did you have in mind for us to do if I came over?
Find out what he is envisioning for your time together. That will help you decide if you feel good about this plan.
5. I don’t feel we know each other well enough for me to come to your place.
Be direct that you don’t yet feel a level of familiarity that would make going to his home appropriate. Suggest alternatives.
6. Do you have a girlfriend or are you married? I don’t want to get in the middle of anything.
If he is already in a relationship, visiting his home would be inappropriate. Ask to avoid any messy situations.
7. I’m sorry, but I’m married/have a boyfriend and don’t feel it’s appropriate to come over.
If you are already in a committed relationship, make that clear and decline the invitation.
8. I’d be more comfortable video chatting or talking on the phone instead of coming over.
Propose a more casual way to interact if you aren’t ready for an in-person visit. This keeps things moving forward.
9. Is there something urgent we need to discuss in person right away?
Try to understand if there is a specific reason he wants you to come over, or if it can wait. That might influence your decision.
10. I have a rule not to go over to someone’s home until I know them better.
Explain you have a personal policy about privacy and familiarity before accepting invites to someone’s home.
11. That sounds fun, what did you want to do together?
If you are open to the idea, find out what he has planned so you know what to expect.
12. I appreciate the invite but I’ll have to take a raincheck this time.
Decline politely while leaving the door open for another time when you may feel more comfortable.
13. I like you but I’m not ready to take things to a physical level yet.
If you suspect his intentions are romantic, be upfront that you aren’t looking for physical intimacy right now.
14. Could we go out in public instead of staying in at your place?
Propose meeting at a restaurant or other public spot rather than his private space.
15. I’m not comfortable being alone at your place when we don’t know each other well yet.
Explain directly that being in private at his home feels premature at this stage. Suggest alternatives.
16. Let’s get lunch/dinner together this weekend and see how things go from there.
Decline the invite to his place but offer a solid alternative plan to continue getting to know one another.
17. I’d love to hang out but your place makes me a little nervous since we just met. Any other ideas?
Be honest about feeling uncomfortable going to his home when you are still new acquaintances. Ask to brainstorm other options.
18. I’m sorry, I have other plans that day but let’s set up another time to get together!
If you legitimately have a schedule conflict, politely decline while still conveying interest in seeing him again.
19. I want to be upfront that I’m not looking for anything physical right now.
If you think romantic expectations might be behind the invite, state clearly you aren’t open to physical intimacy at the moment.
20. Going over feels like a big step when we haven’t gone out on a real date yet.
Explain that visiting his home seems premature before you have spent quality time together in public first.
21. Can we start with something like meeting for coffee instead?
Suggest getting together in a casual public setting first, rather than the intimacy of his private space right away.
22. I like you but don’t want to give you the wrong idea if I come over.
Let him know you enjoy spending time together, but visiting his home might send the wrong signal about your feelings or readiness for intimacy.
23. Let’s chat more and get to know each other before going to your place.
Propose taking more time to build familiarity before taking the step of entering each other’s private spaces.
24. I don’t go over to a guy’s home until I’m in a committed relationship.
Explain your personal boundary is not going to a date’s home until you are officially together in a relationship.
25. Is there a reason we can’t hang out somewhere public instead?
Ask directly why he can’t suggest a public place, as you would prefer that comfort level at this stage.
26. I’d rather not be alone with you at your place when we’re still just getting to know each other.
Clarify that you do not feel ready for the intimacy of being alone together at his home this early on.
27. Why don’t you come over to my place instead so I feel more comfortable?
Propose reversing the location so you feel at ease in your own space.
28. I want to take things slowly and build more trust before going to your home.
Explain you prefer to take the relationship gradually rather than rushing into the privacy of homes right now.
29. Can we meet up during the day or when your roommates are home?
Suggest conditions like timing or having others around to make you feel safer about the idea of going to his place.
30. I’d like to talk more about expectations and boundaries before deciding.
Indicate you need to discuss ground rules first before agreeing to such an intimate setting.
31. Let’s meet at a cafe or restaurant first to see if we click in person.
Propose a neutral public spot to continue getting acquainted before considering time alone at his home.
32. Sorry, but I have to pass this time. Maybe we could do something else together.
Decline the invitation nicely while leaving open the possibility of making other plans.
33. I don’t go to a guy’s place unless we’re dating exclusively.
Clarify that your personal policy is only entering a romantic partner’s home once you are committed.
34. I appreciate you asking, but I’ll have to say no for now.
Thank him for the invite and be clear you aren’t accepting, without being overly harsh.
35. I’d prefer if we hung out in public for our first few dates.
State your preference to continue seeing each other in public settings as you are getting to know one another.
36. How about we meet up for dinner/drinks instead of going to your place?
Counter with an alternative date idea that feels more comfortable to you for the stage you are at.
37. Thanks for the invite but I’ll have to politely decline.
Decline graciously without feeling pressured to accept an offer you don’t feel good about.
Related Questions
Q: How can I tell if a guy is inviting me over just to hook up or if he truly wants to hang out and get to know me?
A: It can be tricky to discern his true intentions. Having an open conversation about what he has in mind can provide some clarity. You could also suggest alternate public date ideas – if he continues pushing to come over, it’s likely about physical intimacy rather than building a relationship. Observing how respectful he is of your boundaries is very telling.
Q: Is going over to a guy’s house on a first or second date necessarily a bad idea?
A: It’s ultimately a personal decision based on your comfort level. There’s no definitive right or wrong answer. Factors to consider are how well you know him, if you have any reason to distrust his intentions, and your own readiness for potential physical intimacy. Proceeding cautiously until you know each other better can help avoid hurt feelings. An ideal first step may be a public date or group outing.
Conclusion
When a guy invites you over to his place, proceed thoughtfully. Take time to reflect before responding. Decline gently if you’re unsure or uncomfortable. Be clear on relationship status, expectations, and limits if you do go over.
Trust your instincts and don’t feel pressured into situations you aren’t ready for. Good communication is key for building understanding and respect. With the right approach, you can handle his invitation smoothly and confidently.
