Getting a text from someone saying “I’m thinking of you” can be exciting and flattering. Whether it’s a crush, partner, or friend expressing caring thoughts your way, it brightens your day knowing you’re on their mind.
But how should you respond? Finding the right words can be a challenge.
This comprehensive guide will provide 221 of the best ways to reply when a guy says he’s thinking about you. We’ll cover flirty, funny, and friendly responses for every relationship.
Why Do Guys Say “Thinking of You”?
When a guy tells you he’s thinking of you, there are a few likely reasons:
- He misses you. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. If you haven’t seen each other in a while, saying “thinking of you” lets you know you’re still on his mind.
- He cares about you. Thinking of someone shows you have a connection with them and they matter to you. It’s a sweet gesture of affection.
- He’s interested in you romantically. Guys are often indirect in expressing interest. “Thinking of you” hints he can’t get you off his mind because he has feelings for you.
- He wants your attention. Whether it’s a crush or partner, saying this gets your focus back on him if communication has lapsed.
- He wants to talk. “Thinking of you” opens the door for further conversation. He may have something on his mind he wants to discuss.
No matter the motivation, it’s a kind text to receive from a guy. But how should you respond? Read on for examples!
Flirty Responses
If you want to reciprocate romantic interest, here are some flirty ways to respond when a guy says he’s thinking of you:
- I was literally just going to text you that!
- You’re always on my mind too.
- I wish you were here with me.
- Same here, I can’t stop thinking about you!
- I haven’t been able to get you off my mind.
- You’re so good to me. I’m so lucky!
- Can’t wait to see you again soon!
- I’d love to know what you’re thinking about…
- Tell me more! 😉
- Say more? I’m all ears!
- I really miss you.
- You’ll see me soon, don’t worry!
- Oh yeah? What were you thinking about exactly?
- That’s so sweet of you to say!
- I was just thinking about our last date together.
- Thinking of you puts the biggest smile on my face!
- Want to get together and tell me in person?
- Anything worth sharing? 😜
- Penny for those thoughts?
- I wish I could read your mind right now!
- You know what they say about thoughts becoming reality…
- I want to make your thoughts come true!
- Are you trying to make me blush?
- You’re always on my mind, especially when I’m trying to sleep!
- I’m the luckiest girl in the world to have someone as thoughtful as you thinking of me.
Flirting back shows you appreciate his interest and feel the same way!
Funny Responses
If you want to keep things playful, these funny replies will make him laugh:
- Should I be worried? 😅
- Did you forget something?
- I hope it wasn’t too scary!
- Uh oh, what did I do this time?
- Are you sure you texted the right person? 😜
- I think about you sometimes…like when I’m on the toilet!
- Is there really nothing else going on in your life right now? 🤣
- I hope I’m not too distracting!
- I feel sorry for you if I’m what you’re thinking about!
- I’ll drink to that! 🍻
- Only you would think of me at a time like this!
- Please tell me this is a joke…
- You think of no one but yourself!
- Sorry, I didn’t mean to interrupt your thoughts!
- Okay, good for you! 👍
- I know it’s hard to get me off your mind 😝
- Yes, you’re allowed to think about me. I can’t control your thoughts!
- The way you said that kinda scares me, bro!
- You can think about me but don’t do anything crazy!
- Thinking won’t help – send money instead! 🤑
Humor and sarcasm take pressure off the situation while letting him know you appreciate him reaching out.
Friendly Responses
If it’s a platonic friend, these nice replies are perfect:
- That’s so thoughtful of you!
- I’m lucky to have a friend who thinks of me.
- Right back at you! Hope you’re doing well.
- Aww thanks, I needed that today.
- You’re the best! How’d you know I needed to hear that?
- Thank you, it means a lot.
- I appreciate you checking up on me.
- Back at you! Wishing you an awesome day!
- You’re so kind for thinking of me.
- I’m grateful to have wonderful friends like you!
- That was so nice of you to say!
- Your friendship means the world to me.
- I wish we lived closer so we could catch up.
- We need a friend reunion ASAP!
- Let’s meet up for coffee soon and catch up.
- How have you been? I want to hear all about it!
- Aww, you’re the sweetest! Right back at you!
- I can’t wait to see you again soon, friend!
Letting a platonic friend know their gesture means a lot maintains your positive relationship.
Responses for When You’re Going Through a Hard Time
If someone says they’re thinking of you when you’re having a difficult time, here are some thoughtful replies:
- Thank you, your message came just when I needed it most.
- I appreciate you checking up on me during this tough time.
- It’s so kind of you to think of me. I’m lucky to have your support.
- Going through a lot right now but friends like you keep me going.
- I wish we could catch up over coffee. I could really use a friend lately.
- Sorry for being distant lately. Life has been crazy! I’ll call you this week to catch up.
- The worst is behind me, now for the healing. Thanks for thinking of me.
- I’m grateful to have such caring people like you in my life right now.
- That was so thoughtful of you to reach out. It means more than you know.
- I appreciate you thinking of me even when life gets busy.
- I’ve been leaning on friends like you lately. It’s meant the world to me.
- Your message brightened my whole day. Thank you for that.
- I can’t tell you how much I needed those kind words today.
- It’s been a rough go lately but I’m lucky you’re in my corner.
- Just knowing you’re thinking of me helps me feel less alone.
- I’m sorry I haven’t had a chance to catch up lately. Can we talk soon?
- Thank you for understanding what I’m going through right now.
Letting loved ones know you appreciate their support during turbulent times strengthens your bond.
Responses for When You Don’t Share the Same Interest
If you don’t reciprocate romantic feelings, you can politely say so with these responses:
- You’re so sweet, but I don’t feel the same way. I’m sorry!
- I’m flattered, but I don’t want to lead you on when I only see you as a friend.
- You’ve been such a great friend to me, but I don’t share those kind of feelings. Sorry about that!
- I’m afraid I don’t feel that way about you. I enjoy our friendship but don’t want anything more.
- That’s kind of you to say but I’m not looking for a relationship right now.
- I’m sorry if I somehow gave you the wrong impression about my feelings. I value you as a friend.
- While I’m thankful you thought of me, I don’t think of you in that way.
- You’re a wonderful person but just not the right fit for me romantically. Hope you understand.
- I don’t want to hurt you, but I don’t see you as anything more than a friend. I wanted to be upfront about that.
- You’ve been so nice but I’m pursuing things with someone else right now. Wishing you the best though!
- I’m flattered but don’t reciprocate those kind of feelings for you. Hope we can still be friends.
- You’re awesome, but I think we’d be better off as friends. I don’t want to mislead you.
- Thank you, but I’m actually seeing someone at the moment. I appreciate you thinking of me though.
- That’s kind but I’m afraid I only think of you platonically, not romantically. Hope you understand.
Being direct but gentle lets him know where you stand while preserving the friendship if possible.
How to Respond to “Thinking of You” via Text
Texting adds another wrinkle, as your tone and body language can’t come across. Here are text message examples:
- Thank you, that’s so nice!
- I appreciate you reaching out 🙂
- Right back at you, hope your day is awesome!
- Lol sounds like someone’s bored…jk you’re so sweet!
- Aww thanks, I needed that today.
- So kind of you to say!
- How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?
- I wish we could catch up over the phone soon and chat!
- That means a lot, thank you for thinking of me.
- You’re the best! How’d you know I needed to hear from you today?
- Can we meet up for coffee this week and catch up?
- I’ll be sure to return the favor and let you know when I’m thinking of you too! 😊
- You’re always so thoughtful!
- I hope all is well with you too! Let’s reconnect soon.
- Lol what funny thoughts are you having about me??
- That’s so nice to get a “just thinking of you” text from you out of the blue!
Keep responses upbeat but concise over text. Save deeper conversations for talking in person.
Responses for When You Receive “Thinking of You” Emails or Letters
Emails and handwritten notes warrant lengthier responses:
- It was so wonderful to get your email – you have impeccable timing! Things have been trying lately, but I’m lucky to have such lovely people in my life. I’d love to catch up over the phone soon if that works for you. Wishing you the very best!
- I can’t tell you how much happier I was after getting your thoughtful note in the mail. You have no idea how much I needed that today! I’m sorry I haven’t had a chance to write back sooner, but I didn’t want another day to go by without thanking you for making me smile. You truly are one of the most caring friends anyone could ask for. I hope this note finds you doing great. Looking forward to reconnecting soon!
- It was so nice to hear from you. I’ve been meaning to send you a letter for weeks to let you know how much I appreciate you and your friendship. Thank you for taking the time to brighten my spirits – it worked wonders! I’m truly blessed to have someone as kindhearted as you in my life. Let’s make plans to get together for a long overdue catch-up session!
- I just opened my mailbox to find your thoughtful note. How lucky am I to have a brilliant friend like you who always knows exactly when I need a pick-me-up? I can’t thank you enough for thinking of me and sending such motivating words my way. You have a gift my friend! I hope we can continue this conversation in person over wine sometime very soon. Sending lots of love your way!
- Thank you for thinking of me – your note was a welcomed surprise! Life has been busy lately, but I should never be too busy for friends as amazing as you. I apologize for being so absent and want you to know how much I appreciate your patience and understanding. I can’t wait for things to settle down so we can meet up to laugh over coffee again soon. Until then, know you’re never far from my thoughts either. Sending the warmest wishes your way!
Make sure to convey gratitude and suggest plans to reconnect when responding to letters or emails.
How to Respond When a Guy Says He’s Thinking About You in Person
If a guy expresses this sentiment face-to-face, you have the benefit of reading his body language but also the pressure to come up with a response in real time. Here are ideas for what to say in the moment:
- Thank you, that means so much to me to hear.
- You’re so sweet – right back at you!
- I really appreciate you saying that.
- Well, isn’t this a nice coincidence? I was just thinking about you too!
- Aw, you sure know how to make a girl feel special!
- You’re gonna make me blush over here!
- I can’t stop smiling right now, that makes me so happy to hear.
- I’m flattered to know I’m on your mind.
- What were the thoughts about? Don’t worry, I won’t tell! 😉
- You just made my whole day saying that.
- Aww, you’re the best! Come here, bring it in for a hug!
- Want to meet up later so we can talk in person?
- You’re so cute – I can’t stop thinking about you either!
- I wish I could read your mind right now!
- Well isn’t this romantic timing? I was literally just thinking about you!
- You’re pretty unforgettable, so I’m not surprised I’m on your mind.
- I’m the lucky one for having someone as thoughtful as you in my life.
- That means the world coming from you. Thank you.
Match his sincerity with honest reactions. A hug or smile can say a lot too!
Flirty Questions to Ask a Guy Who Says He’s Thinking About You
If you want to keep the romantic conversation going, ask him questions like:
- Oh really…and what exactly were you thinking about? 😉
- What kinds of thoughts are going through your head right now?
- What prompted you to start thinking about little ol’ me?
- Should I be concerned about the nature of these thoughts at all? 😜
- Is it anything you want to talk about more in person?
- So…are these thoughts just platonic or something more? 😏
- How long have you been having these thoughts? All day?
- Do you think about me a lot in general or was this a one-time thing?
- Does this mean you miss me and want to see me again soon?
- Do I even want to know what’s been going on in your head? 😅
- Were you daydreaming or having more…intense thoughts?
- What scenarios were playing out when you were thinking about me?
- Out of curiosity, do you think your thoughts would make me blush? 🙊
- How did I get so lucky to occupy so much of your thoughts?
- So when are you going to ask me out on a date already?
- What exactly did you have in mind when you were thinking of me? 😉
Flirty questions keep the romantic vibes flowing. But only ask them if you feel comfortable taking the conversation in this direction!
Funny Questions to Ask When a Guy Says He’s Thinking About You
To keep things breezy and fun, you could ask questions like:
- Please tell me you were thinking normal thoughts and not anything too creepy!
- Did you accidentally text me instead of your therapist or what?
- So is this your subtle way of asking me for money? 😅
- Were you having second thoughts about my fashion sense? My taste in music?
- Anything embarrassing I should know about that prompted this?
- Did I do something funny that made you randomly think of me?
- Were you thinking about how awesome I am or more how strange I am? 🤪
- Is everything ok? Do you have a fever or something?
- Did I leave something at your place last time I was over?
- Were you reminiscing about my best qualities or my most annoying habits? 😜
- What happened right before I popped into your head?
- Did I do something to inspire your thoughts or was it random?
- Out of all people in the world, what made you land on me?
- What’s wrong, you run out of things to watch on Netflix?
- So you finally admit you have no life without me, right?
Making lighthearted jokes takes off the pressure while keeping your bond playful.
Follow-Up Discussion Questions When a Guy Says He’s Thinking About You
To transition the conversation into deeper territory, ask open-ended questions like:
- What feelings came up for you when you were thinking about me?
- Was there anything in particular you wanted to talk to me about?
- What prompted you to reach out and tell me you were thinking about me?
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When to Have a Serious Conversation After “Thinking of You”
If a guy telling you he’s thinking of you leads to realizing you need to have a serious relationship talk, here are some tips:
- Don’t panic or overanalyze it. He likely had innocent intentions.
- If you don’t reciprocate his feelings, be honest but kind in telling him.
- Pick a private time to chat where you can give the conversation proper attention.
- Listen if he has developed stronger feelings he wants to confess. Hear him out before responding.
- Make it clear if you only see him as a friend, not romantic partner.
- Be patient and sensitive, but don’t string him along if you know you don’t feel the same way.
- Offer to still be friends if possible, but understand if he needs space.
- Keep the conversation respectful. Getting defensive or confrontational benefits no one.
- You don’t owe him a relationship just because he has feelings. But do value his sharing something difficult.
- If you do share his feelings, discuss what you both want moving forward.
- Focus on listening over speaking. Have an open, honest dialogue, not a one-sided lecture.
- Express appreciation for him feeling comfortable confiding in you.
- Promise to keep the conversation private between the two of you only.
Being thoughtful in your response can preserve the friendship if that’s your goal.
Responding When You’re in a Committed Relationship
If you’re in a relationship and someone else says they’re thinking of you, stay faithful with replies like:
- I’m flattered, but I have a partner I’m committed to.
- You’re very kind, but I don’t think my partner would like me talking to you this way.
- I’m afraid I can’t reciprocate because I’m happily taken.
- While I’m thankful, I don’t feel comfortable engaging since I’m loyal to my partner.
- You seem nice, but I’m devoted to my relationship and don’t want to lead you on.
- I don’t think my partner would appreciate us talking. I have to respect that.
- I appreciate the thought, but I’m involved with someone else. Take care.
How to Politely Decline Someone’s Interest
If you don’t share the same feelings as the person expressing interest in you, you can politely say so:
- I’m flattered, but I don’t feel the same way. Thank you for understanding.
- You’re a wonderful person, but I see us just as friends, not romantic partners.
- While I’m thankful you thought of me, I don’t think of you in that way.
- I enjoy our friendship but don’t reciprocate deeper romantic feelings. Sorry to disappoint you.
- You deserve someone who returns your feelings 100%. I don’t want to mislead you.
- I don’t want a relationship beyond friendship right now. I hope we can still be friends.
- I’m not interested in anything more than friendship. I wanted to be upfront so I don’t mislead you.
Staying firm yet kind allows you to be honest without being unnecessarily harsh if your admirer is sensitive.
Letting Someone Down Easy Over Text
Declining romantic interest over text requires extra tact. Some messages that work:
- That’s flattering of you to say, but I see us just as friends.
- You’re a cool person but I don’t share the same feelings. Didn’t want to lead you on.
- I’m sorry if I gave you the wrong idea. I only think of you as a friend, not romantically.
- Thank you for thinking of me, but I don’t think we’re a match. Wish you the best though!
- You deserve someone who reciprocates your feelings 100%. Sadly that’s not me, but I wanted to be upfront.
- I don’t feel we’re compatible more than friends. You’re nice but not the right fit for me romantically.
Stay honest yet kind. Offer to discuss more in person if needed to provide closure.
How to Reject Someone Without Ruining the Friendship
To preserve the friendship when rejecting romantic interest, consider these tips:
- Do it privately to avoid humiliating them by rejecting them in front of others.
- Thank them for caring enough to open up to you.
- Make it clear you’re flattered they expressed interest.
- Avoid saying things you can’t take back in anger like “I could never date someone like you!”
- Explain specifically why you don’t reciprocate their deeper feelings.
- If it’s because you value their friendship so much, make sure they know that.
- Suggest focusing your bond on the great friendship you do have.
- Promise it won’t damage your platonic relationship going forward.
- Give them time and space if needed initially to process the rejection.
- Check in after a few weeks when emotions have settled to start fresh.
Treating them respectfully lowers the chance of hurt feelings or bitterness on either side.
Responses Showing You Only See Your Friend as a Friend
To tell a friend you don’t share their romantic feelings, use phrases like:
- I’m so thankful for our amazing friendship, but don’t see it ever becoming romantic.
- I treasure the friendship we’ve built – I wouldn’t risk that by complicating it.
- I hope this doesn’t make things weird. I want us to always stay close as friends.
- You’re one of my best friends. Let’s not ruin that by forcing something more that isn’t there.
- I don’t want a romantic relationship to potentially damage our great friendship.
- I enjoy our friendship too much to ever risk losing it if we dated and it didn’t work out.
- Can we please stay friends? I want you in my life in a platonic way.
Make your boundaries clear from the start to avoid sending mixed signals. The right person will respect your choice.
Letting Down a Guy You Met on a Dating App
If someone from a dating app expresses feelings too quickly, keep these sample scripts handy:
- We just met and don’t know each other that well yet. Let’s slow down and just get to know each other first.
- I appreciate you opening up but we’ve really only gone on one date so far. Let’s give this more time before rushing into deeper feelings.
- You seem nice but I’m not comfortable with how fast this is moving. Can we take a step back and get to know each other better first?
- While I’m flattered, declaring feelings this soon makes me hesitate about continuing to see each other. I think we want different things.
Protect yourself if someone you barely know seems overly invested too quickly. Pay attention to red flags.
Conclusion
Finding the perfect response when a guy tells you he’s been thinking of you may feel daunting at times. But following your instincts to react honestly while protecting your boundaries will serve you well.
Whether you reciprocate romantic interest, see him as just a friend, or need to decline his expressions gently, use the examples in this guide as inspiration to craft a sincere reply true to the unique situation.
With care and open communication, “thinking of you” can be a thoughtful gesture that brings you closer, even if you don’t share the same exact feelings.
